Let’s be real. Breakups suck. Anyone that says otherwise is lying. If you know me, I’ve never been one to do things normally. So, of course, I didn’t spend my breakup crying at home, eating Ben & Jerry’s, and deleting pictures of my ex. Prior to this, I had never gone through a “real” breakup before, and honestly, I had no clue how to react. I found myself wondering -- is it weird I’m not that sad? Why am I excited to have all this free time? And how amazing will it be to travel with friends?
It’s easy to get wrapped up in yourself & the relationship. Looking back at it - I hadn’t gone on a true “friend” trip in over a year and my breakup was the perfect opportunity to make up for lost time.
Take a Breakup Trip
The first step to a successful breakup -- plan a trip. Go somewhere new, exciting, and preferably with gorgeous people. To get over breakup you need something to look forward to and somewhere to go that isn't tainted by your ex. For me, LA and Lisbon fit the bill. Luckily, my sister and bestie were both up for post-breakup adventures.
Do Something Your Ex Hated
Ok, I’m not going to sugar coat it. My ex couldn't dance if his life depended on it (sorry David). This was miserable because A) I love dancing more than just about anything B) dancing with someone with no rhythm basically ruins dancing. Naturally, I jumped at the opportunity to skip lines of posh clubs in LA, dance until 5 AM belting out the lyrics to Nelly’s “Hot in Herre” in Lisbon, and not so humbly accept compliments on my dancing skills.
Try Something New
This is going to sound really cliche, but I’ve always wanted to hike to the Hollywood sign. I’m all for new experiences, but 8 AM on a Sunday morning after a night “out on the town” is a tough sell. Well, you’re only in LA once, So with some hiking fuel of leftover chicken fingers, diet cokes, and a strategic mix of smart and coconut waters, my bestie and I were ready to conquer the Hollywood sign (room service is a beautiful thing!).
We Ubered to the start of the hike and thought we were ready to tackle the hill. The worst thing about hangovers is that everything feels fine in the beginning, and then suddenly, out of nowhere, the feeling of crawling right back into bed hits you. I’m not going to lie, the hike to the Hollywood sign ended up being one of the most strenuous workouts of my life. Sad, I know.
When we got to the lookout point the sign was covered with fog. Note to self: next time you try to hike to the Hollywood sign make sure it’s visible. On the bright side, at least we sweat out the hangover and had time to grab In & Out after. Trying something new and having a hilarious travel mishap with a friend was the perfect way to forget about what's-his-face.
Have a Fling (with an Accent)
Sometimes all it takes to get over someone is to be reminded that yes there are much better things out there. This is exactly why I loved traveling to Lisbon, where the wine is green and the men romantic. To be honest, I forgot how charming European men can be. Maybe it’s the language barrier or maybe they haven’t been tarnished by the online dating world, but I can’t remember the last time an American boy told me that I “dance like a Latina and am full of life.”
There’s nothing quite like innocent flirtations with charming foreigners to make what little remaining feelings you have for your ex disappear.
Breakups are inherently horrible, but they don’t have to be. Take your breakup as a chance to see the world, do what you’ve always wanted to, and get complimented by lots of handsome European men because yes, you deserve the best.